This past June Mike and I celebrated nine years of marriage!

And yeah, I mean, that’s awesome and everything, but what’s really interesting is that the past nine years and two months have all been thanks to a blind date that happened 10 years ago this month. I feel like that statement makes me really old. Do people even meet on blind dates anymore? 

I realize that in the grand scheme of things, nine years is just a drop in the bucket of eternity. But I kind of feel like in today’s world it’s quite the accomplishment. Links contain affiliates, all opinions are my own.

 Dress // Heels (similar) // Ring (similar) // Bracelet (similar)

Awhile ago I was talking to a friend of mine about marriage. This friend said that most of the people they knew said they weren’t happy in their marriages. That makes me so sad, for so many reasons! Here’s the thing though people, marriage is all about choices.  You can choose to be selfish. You can choose to find fault. You can choose to focus on the negative, or…

…or…

You can choose to be happy. You can choose to show love, to serve your spouse, to work together. My friends, it is so very important to work together, to show a united front. And I have found that as you show your love through support and service for your spouse, it not only makes your spouse happier, but it makes you happier too!

Men’s Watch // Women’s Watch

I am not saying that you should just accept every problem that arises; sometimes there are significant issues in marriage and, even with the help of professionals, your marriage might not be able to recover. I’m not trying to be insensitive to anyone, and I realize that my experience—like everyone else’s—is unique and limited. 

But I also know, that I am happy in my marriage—so happy. I know that everyday Mike and I try to make choices to serve and love and be equally yoked. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that our life is all sunshine and rainbows and magical unicorn poop. It’s more like partly sunny with a chance of rain… and lots of stinky baby poop.

Trust me, not as awesome as magical unicorn poop.

So, for what it’s worth, that’s my advice. Make the choice to love your spouse and show that love. Make the choice to work together as a team instead of being competitors. Choose to be happy. Marriage isn’t about finding the right person, rather it’s about being the right person and realizing that that is pretty much all you have control over.

Psst… did you also know that the couple that accessorizes together, stays together? Okay, I made that up, but treating yourself sure feels nice. Be sure to enter my giveaway for a $75 credit for JORD wood watches //here//. Even if you don’t win you will still receive a $20 e-voucher towards the watch of your choice!

What’s your advice on relationships?

Also, what’s the consensus, do people still meet on blind dates? How did you meet your spouse?